How to get noticed by the opposite sex
December 20, 2010

As a person who has never had trouble getting noticed by the opposite sex, I may have some good tips to offer!

Getting noticed in a good way is different depending on the venue in which you are searching.  For instance, ladies, in a bar or restaurant, you are noticed for how you look, and for how much you are engaging with the person or people you came with.  Have you ever had the exerience where you went to a restaurant with a date, and the minute he went to the bathroom, you were approached by another guy?  That’s because you looked great, AND you were smiling and engaged in happy reparte with your date.  That’s the dream — every guy in the room wants to be the guy you are with.  Learn to re-create that look, that feel EVERY time you go out, even when you are just out with your friends, and you will have lots more men just walking up and asking you out for a date.

If this has never happened to you before — it may be a sign that you need to step up your game a bit — perhaps in your look, perhaps in your approachability — perhaps in the energy you are showing the world.

Got a trip to the grocery store, the hardware store, or work today?  Make sure you look great, and that you look engaged, interested and approachable in everything you do.  Looking great means looking great and appropriate for the occasion — you don’t wear a cocktail dress to the grocery store — you will get noticed, but not approached because you are intimidating in that attire in that scenario.

I call it ” vacation attitude.”    I know MANY people who have met their mate while on vacation — do you know why?  It’s because when you get away from your everyday grind, in a plane, train, or just a trip to a grocery in a new town — it is human nature to be more “alive,” to show and express more interest, excitement and openness to the sights and the people around you.  For instance, have you ever noticed that while on vacation, you meet more guys?  Well, that’s because you are OPEN to them, more approachable, more relaxed and allowing them to really see you than you are when you are at home with your head down and your hair in a pony tail at the gym or the grocery store!  I challenge you to put on your VACATION ATTITUDE every day, to get noticed by the opposite sex!

When you walk into a bar or restaurant with your friends, your entrance is very important.  When walking in, hold your head high, your eyes wide open with an expression of friendliness and excitement.  When you walk in, make eye contact — just one seconds worth — with everyone who comes in your path, smile, and then look away.  Look back only if you like what you see!  Look around the room at the scene and the people — just like you would if you were on vacation!

If you are entering a party — again, your entrance is very important.  When you walk in the door, everyone is watching to see who comes in… make your entrance confident, happy, friendly and approachable.  Again, have a smile and just a second of eye contact for everyone you meet.  Look back only at those you are interested in.  If it’s someone you are interested in meeting, let the second glance last 2 seconds, and the 3rd glance last 5, before looking away.  That should be enough of a sign for him to come over and introduce himself.  If he doesn’t, then let it go — you want a guy who is willing to go after what he wants, don’t you?

Interestingly, if you are a guy, the approach is amazingly similar.  Remember how you look — your personal best and appropriate for the situation/venue, remember to look engaged, interested, excited and approachable when in public places.  Add to this, that if you are doing something interesting, noteworthy, polite, or excellent, you will have her attention.  Helping an elderly person, for example.  Or just opening a door for a woman.  Or being nice to the person that the girl you have noticed is with, is noticeable.  Look for her looking at you for more than 2 seconds… that’s your cue to say hello and start a conversation about ANYTHING.  And it can absolutely be anything.  She’s already told you with her gaze and smile that your advance is welcome.  However, if you do NOT get that more than 2 second glance, it’s probably not worth your time in approaching.

In short, it is easy to get noticed by the opposite sex, as long as you look your personal best, you are appropriate for the situation, and are showing energy and approachability wherever you are, out in the world.  So, put on your VACATION ATTITUDE and see how much you are noticed this week!  Let me know what you find!

What to do for #Thanksgiving when you are Single
November 1, 2010

I remember moving to Seattle one very rainy November exactly 11 years ago.  I lived in a hotel for the first 2 weeks.  My boxes with my entire life in them arrived at the cute bachelorette pad that I had rented in Belltown the day before Thanksgiving.  There was no sense in flying to Cleveland to be with family when I would be there with them for the Christmas holidays, just 4 weeks away.

It was my first — and in fact my last — Thanksgiving completely alone.

I knew no one in town except those in the office I worked with — and I didn’t even know them very well yet.  I woke up Thanksgiving day and turned on the television and watched the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade.  Not so exciting when you are by yourself, with no dinner or friends to look forward to later in the day, or even later in the weekend.

When you are single and living in a town far away from family or anyone you know, you need friends to create a normal life.  One where you have connections with people, and look forward to those connections.  One where you can share your precious and hard-earned time off in a fun way, with others.  Otherwise, what’s all that work for, anyway?  Time to blow off some steam!

Every Thanksgiving ever since that first one, I have spent up at Whistler with about 75 single professionals, just like myself.  We had Thanksgiving dinner together — we visited the clubs and spas together, went out to the shopping and exploring together, and I snowboarded every day with about half of that group (the other half finds other activities, like spas, snowshoeing, shopping. etc. to do during the day).  Amazing.  So much fun.  Such friendly people.  A real vacation instead of just a dinner.  Wow!

I did this just by joining Events and Adventures.  In all seriousness, I don’t know of any other group in Seattle or Vancouver BC who takes care of Singles on Thanksgiving Day, Thanksgiving Weekend.  They take care of all of the reservations and organization to Whistler EVERY Thanksgiving – and that’s on TOP of events planned here in Seattle for those who don’t choose to travel.  The most that I ever paid for my accommodations and 2 meals per day for that 3-night, 4-day weekend was $250.  Such a deal at Whistler is hard to refuse.

They are going again this year — call them now and Tivo the Macy’s Thanksgiving Day Parade!  You’ll be out enjoying your time off with gusto, and being thankful for all the new friends you’ve made this year!

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More Singles to meet in the World than EVER before!
October 28, 2010

One of the biggest cultural shifts of our generation is the quickly-growing number of people who are single. Some are single parents, some are never-married singles, some are divorced or widowed — but the total number of singles is greater than it has ever been.  You may be single, but you are NOT alone!

Here are some statistics from the US Census Bureau:

92 million
Number of unmarried adults in the United States. At that time, 60% of unmarried Americans 18 and older had never been married.  Another 25 percent were divorced, and 15 percent were widowed. Source: Facts for Features released by Census Bureau on July 21, 2008. But when data for the entire year is considered, the number of unmarried adults was tabulated at 100 million.

More than three times
The proportional increase of never married women ages 30 to 34 during the period 1970 to 2000 (from 6 percent to 22 percent). Men experienced a similarly dramatic increase
in singleness, from 9 percent to 30 percent. Indeed, young, single adults are much more common today than a generation ago.
http://www.census.gov/Press-Release/www/2001/cb01-113.html

This blog is dedicated to the issues and topics, questions and advice needed by singles across North America.

My humble qualifications for writing this blog: a B.S. in journalism, and having personally conducted one-hour interviews listening to stories of the love lives and social lives of close to 4,000 singles over the past 8 years.   I have truly listened to more singles’ stories than any of my readers will have ever heard, or have the time to read.  I offer knowledge honed from decades of experience being single myself — (although I gave up that status exactly one year ago on Sunday, when I married my soulmate); good common sense, and a true desire to help!

I will be posting my blog to my own Twitter account, and to the Twitter and Facebook account of Events and Adventures (www.eventsandadventures.com), a 22-year-old adventure club for singles, coordinating more than 450 events per year in the cities it makes home, dedicated to assisting singles to live their best lives, make friends and have fun. Ironically, the club has also been responsible for countless marriages. Go figure — if you are living your best single life, you are more likely to meet your soulmate.    Hmmmm.  I know, from personal experience, because it happened to me. 🙂

Please write to me if there is a topic that affects singles that you would like for me to research or address for you! I already have years of knowledge and resources to pull from to help you to find the answers and try to help!